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I’d say it was a successful weekend.

I’d say it was a successful weekend.

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thanoblesavage:

Happy Ishtar

So basically the right way to celebrate today would be to get it on.  But is it still celebrating if the sex is deliberately non-procreative?  

thanoblesavage:

Happy Ishtar

So basically the right way to celebrate today would be to get it on.  But is it still celebrating if the sex is deliberately non-procreative?  

(via courtneyhammett)

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marveloustransformer asked: How is a dad wanting to shoot potential male prospects with a shotgun sexist? That's a father he wants to protect his daughter men know how other men act it's not about being a princess it's about wanting your daughter to pick the right guy. A father knows his daughter is gonna mess up & if a boy breaks her heart he's going to be there for her unless he's a deadbeat dad who's an ass not everything is sexist or feminist but I do hate patriarchal attitudes but not this

avalost:

candidlycara:

geekyxena:

candidlycara:

candidlycara:

Are you kidding me? “A father knows his daughter is gonna mess up?”

NO HE DOES NOT. THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO DON’T NECESSARILY “MESS UP” IN REGARDS TO THE MEN THEY CHOOSE TO DATE. AND MANY WOMEN WHO DO WHO WOULD NOT WANT ANYONE INTERFERING WITH THE MISTAKES AND LIFE LESSONS THEY’VE OBTAINED, REGARDLESS OF BLOODLINE.

Sometimes, often, the “Daddy knows best” notion is WRONG because parents, like all humans, are prone to their own flaws, prejudices, biases, and incorrect perceptions.

Also, threatening violence to a MINOR is really fucked up? And if the person in question isn’t a minor, like, you’re threatening to kill the adult decisions of your daughter?

It IS sexist because the whole dad-with-the-shotgun thing is so ubiquitous to society that we DON’T EVEN HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT TO KNOW WHAT IT MEANS. There’s no “Mom with the carving knife” trope.

If all dad’s spent more time teaching their sons to treat women like PEOPLE they wouldn’t have to spend so much time and money in threatening to kill other people’s sons.

Also: Men know how other men act?

REALLY?

Then why do women still not have equal pay? Why do 1/4 women experience sexual assault? Why do you continue to support athletes, actors, teams, musicians who beat and rape women? Why do women still have to fight for reproductive rights? Why do trans women experience violence even more disproportionately than any one else? Why do women not obtain leadership positions easily? Why do women still get murdered simply for trying to obtain an education?

You don’t care about your daughter’s well being if you think the biggest threat to her life is some snot nosed kid. What you care about IS controlling her sex life, about her being your perfect virginal princess. It’s a primal reflex, its repulsive, and virtually useless to women and society as a whole.

If you REALLY care about your daughter’s well being you’d realize the patriarchy is the biggest threat to her well being. Worry about HER not only the sexual aspect of her life.

If all this INJUSTICE is going on while “Men know how men act” then they certainly are doing virtually nothing to fight it and are complaint in inequality. You care about your daughters? Don’t shoot her boyfriend. FIGHT. WITH THE SAME FERVOR YOU CLAIM TO HAVE THAT WOULD BRING YOU TO SHOOT SOMEONE, FIGHT FOR HER EQUALITY. FIGHT FOR HER EVERY LAST RIGHT. FOR HER PROMOTIONS. FIGHT FOR HER RIGHT TO LOVE WHOEVER SHE WANTS. FIGHT FOR HER EDUCATION. FIGHT FOR HER VOTING RIGHTS. ELECT WOMEN INTO OFFICE. REMOVE MEN FROM OFFICE WHO WANT TO LEGISLATE HER BODY. FIGHT. WITH EVERY OUNCE OF ENERGY IN YOUR BODY.

My dad said this to me when I was about 11 which made me pretty angry. He’s been absent for most of my life, but make no mistake, he’ll be there to protect me from other men! *side-eye*

Men who think “protecting” us is more important than fighting for our basic fucking equality can keep their fucking protection to themselves and move the fuck out of the way.

There’s real people who actually care about women- trying to GET SHIT DONE, we don’t need your fucked up hero complex, we need you to talk to other men, help abolish inequality in education access, in pay, in job promotions, in medicine and healthcare. Help elect candidates who put women as a priority. Fight local police and campuses who don’t heavily investigate rape accusations, and boycott anti female businesses and individuals.

You want to protect your daughter? Giver her comprehensive sex education. Tell her how her hymen doesn’t BURST when she has sex for the fist time if she is sufficiently lubtricated. Tell her about condoms and what type of birth control would best suit her needs. Help her get the best education possible at a campus that bolsters and fights for women. Encourage her to take leadership positions if she wants them, encourage her to be pro-woman. Speak POSITIVELY about women in general, not that they are all “emotional” “irrational” or “petty.” Teach your fucking sons to not only respect women but TO LOOK UP TO THEM. That women are POWERFUL RESPECTABLE people. That their female relatives are JUST as valid in their experiences.

I swear to god, every man who is “trying to protect me” can honestly swerve the fuck off. I don’t need your fucking protection, I need an ally. And if you can’t be that then you are COMPLAINT IN MY OPPRESSION and can straight up go to hell.

You want to protect your daughter? Help abolish the system that puts her in danger in the first place. Do anything less, and you are an enabler of that broken system. Do anything less and YOU are another one of the people that you want to protect her from.

I love how he says “We know our daughters are going to mess up.”  Even as a father, you’re blaming your daughter for how she is treated by men.  As in, “Well she’s a girl and she just doesn’t know any better.”  Not only is that unfair to your daughter (or hypothetical daughter) but it perpetuates the victim blaming ideal that puts women and young girls in danger in this society.

Treating a young girl like she’s too stupid to know any better about who she should or should not date, is an insult to her.  It shows her that you don’t trust her and therefore devalue her as an individual.  By disrespecting her in such away, you chip away at her agency and what happens when you take away someone’s agency?  They become desperate, which pushes them to make rash decisions.  Girls don’t “mess up” because that’s what “girls do.”  

Girls “mess up” when their self esteem gets to such a low point because they are devalued to the point that they don’t think they deserve to be treated with respect.  They get to that point when their parents treat them like idiots who need to be sheltered from a “big bad world.”  GIrls don’t need to be protected, they need to be empowered.

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nopantsandteamakesmehappy:

"I would die for her. I would kill for her. Either way, what bliss.”

nopantsandteamakesmehappy:

"I would die for her. I would kill for her. Either way, what bliss.”

(Source: tartingabout, via thisisnotnovafrank)